Coping Skills

		Coping is a process and continues throughout life. It begins virtually at birth. Coping has several unique features. First, it appears to be an individual process. This means that it varies from person to person even if they are experiencing the same events. Second, it is a learned process. It begins at birth and changes based on circumstances and relationships throughout life. Third, it is the process by which an individual sense of their boundaries and relationships in the world. Finally, the boundaries in Coping can maintain either a healthy or unhealthy process. At times, it can contain both.			Featured Product Coping Skills Workbook by Dr. John Mauldin

The process of coping occurs when a person creates, invents, discovers, or develops a system to regulate their environment, relationships, or biological issues. In the environment, you may need to negotiate specific dangers such as all animals, snakes, gangs, or financial hardships. In relationships, you need to cope with coworkers, spouses, children, and complete strangers. In the biological arena, you have to negotiate at your own mental capabilities and their application to the world and relationships. In addition, your physical abilities and limitations require coping.

In the early stages of life, coping is a learned process. It is understood from the behavioral presentation and treatment your caregivers give to you. The caregiver has control, and a child must attend and respond as expected. Expectations form the first set of coping mechanisms. As children grow beyond caretaker control, the learned coping is applied in new environments and with new people. If it is successful, it is used continually with moderate variations, only as needed. If it is unsuccessful, the child will strive to create their own coping mechanisms, force others to cope with them, or adapt to new sets of expectations.

One of the more fascinating aspects of coping is that it is a device that allows the individual to be successful with occurrences in the here and now. It was designed before the occurrence happened and will be adapted after the occurrence ends. In this sense, there is a leapfrog process that occurs when the person wishing to cope with an issue that has occurred today makes the adaptation for future similar events. Whether or not the event ever occurs in reality does not matter, the person feels that the event must be controlled, and they react as if it will occur even if the probability is very low. For example, people that have been in a high-rise hotel fire frequently require 3rd floor or lower rooms (a person can jump from without major injury). Also, they will walk the passage to the nearest exit and count the steps (because you cannot see when the smoke fills the halls). These are adaptive mechanisms based on a terrible probably once in a lifetime event, but they will take no changes and create a coping scenario for it.

In the present workbook, you will review the process that formed your earliest coping expectations. You will determine how those expectations are confirming or denying your present success in life. You will learn how to reorganize and set new coping skills based on your present expectations in your life. This process is unique, fulfilling, and exciting. Once an individual has a grasp of coping, they can then use it under any circumstances to regulate and control their life.

Coping Skills and Stress Control are so closely related that we invite you to take the Free Stress Test to get an idea of what your coping/stress skills are and if you need to purchase the coping skills workbook. If you would like to purchase the Coping Skills Workbook please follow the link or visit the buy now page.